Category: Parent Talk
O my! I think noah has hit his terrible two's early. I sware! he's taken to throwing his self down in the flore and skreeming this horible high pitched skreem every time I take something away from him. he pushes chairs across the kitchen and climes up on to counters and even jumps off of the couch on to the flore like super man! Lol, i'm not totally sure what to do here, hahaaha. this boy is way ahead of me.
I don't know what to expect, I was wondering if any one elce with a toddling one or who has had a toddling one can show me a little of what to expect and how to handle it
mona, my best friend is a nurse and she told me that the terrible two's actually start their second year of life, which would be the present, not when they turn 2.whether it's true or not, well yeah.
savannah has started throwing things when she is mad. and the fits have begun also. this is their way of communicating and being upset because they can't just say straight out what they do or don't want and all. as for what to do about it, i'm kind of struggling with this also. when savannah throws something, i calmly tell her that we don't throw our toys, cups, whatever the item is. i know she doesn't understand me yet, but she'll get there. when she is mad because she can't have my scissors, needle, or again whatever it is, i again calmly talk to her about why she can't have it. i give her a safe replacement toy or object instead. sometimes this works, others, she throws it.
i'm really working with her on handing me what is in her hand when i ask for it. it's going ok so far. she's getting there. this helps at times, instead of having to take something away, if i can get her to give it to me instead, there's no drama.
if you are interested, there are a few different mailing lists for blind parents. you can ask questions like this and anything else and you'll get answers from several different parents. let me know if you are interested. hope something here helps.
it's a phase, it will pass as long as noah learns other ways to express himself and all.
hey all, i have a 2 year old son and he is gettin better cauz he can talk n now when he cries he is like me cryin now me cryin now mommy! but e does cry still and does naughty stuff like poring his juice into my lamp that has a cup holder on it, i took it away, and wiped it all up... i told him it wasnt ok 2 do that and it isnt nice!! he jus did it tonight and hopefully he learns! now he is saying "i love me i love u i love me i love u!!" and laughing about it and saying "thats my song!!" it is so freakin cute!!!
what r the other parent boerds we can join??
we're definantly working on the handing stuff to mommy thing, but he likes to hold it out for a split seccond and then yank it back to his chest before I can grab it and run like the dickens, his other favorite game is lets hide from mommy, he's verry aware I cannot see him. and he's already taking advantage of that. his favorite hiding places, under the kitchen table, under the kitchen chairs, behind the sectional, underneath the little nook beside the starecase, all sorts of places that i've tried to cover up, but he still finds more. weeeew! this boy is really ahead of me, but not for long, hehehe.
lol, SOUNDS EXACTLY LIKE MY 2 YEAR OLD!! EXACTLY LIKE HIM!! HE'LL RUN FROM ME AND HIDE UNDER THE KITCHEN TABLE, BEHIND THE COUTCHES, UNDER THE LIL TABLE IN THE LIVING ROOM, IN THE CORNERS, ANYWHERE HE CCAN! LOL..... i tell him u cant run from mommy and o yeah, dont b surprised if later on noah says "mommy can c me now!" lol mine does it all the time or "u can c me now mommy!!" lol i just laugh and say o yeah? ok... its cute how he says it. has he addapted 2 u not being able 2 c yet? o yeah another thing u can do if he throws somethin, pick it up and hand it to him and say, now, "hand it to mommy nicely!" in a calm but kinda firm voice and say WE DO NOT THROW THINGS NOAH THAT CAN HURT MOMMY sence i cant see it.. just some suggestions...
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hahahahahah, that does sound like my little one. he has adapted to the fact that i'm blind, if he wants more in his sippy cup he'll bring it to me and say more and actuilly put it in my hand. and if he wants me to pick him up, he'll grab my pant leg and say up. if he's walked in front of me and got in my way some how, he'll hold out his little hand and touch my leg so that I know that he's there. but those are the good qualitys of him knowing I can't see, the bad one's are every thing above. where he's hiding and what not.
and we are actuilly running in to another problem, that may have to go on a different topic, but he's started showing signs of having glocoma. it's how his birth mom went blind and it's how I lost my eyes. he's holding all of his books close to his face when I read to him, and he's stairing at lights, and even putting his hands in front of his eyes and making shapes for minutes and minutes on end. those are all things I did when I was young, before I lost my vision. he's also tripping over things he should be able to see, and bumping in to desks and stuff. I don't kno if he's just mocking me and daddy, because daddy does read things verry close to his vace, he's also VI, or if there's really a problem, but i'm getting him to the doctor soon.
and aside from that, totally off topick, our adoption has been finalized! yayyyyy!
CONGRADULATIONS!!!! HOLDING THE BOOK IN FRONT OF HIS FACE MIGHT B NORMAL I THINK MY SON DOES THAT TOO OR HE'LL TRY 2 READ THE BRAILLE LOL CUTE! HE'S BEEN TEST 4 GLAUCOMA CAUZ I HAVE IT TOO AND HE DIDN'T HAVE IT A YEAR AGO SO.... maybe and hopefuly he'll b ok. o yeah another thing 2 warn u about if he sits close 2 the tv dont think it is a seeing thing cauz my son does it all the time talking bout "me cant c mommy!" so yeah.. if u have anymore ?S u can email me it is in the post above or u can also add me on yahoo
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Lol! Wow! I thoughtI was theonly one who went through this stuff with Nathaniel. Yeah, I've heardthe terrible two's start early with some kids. My personal theory is that it's actually a sign of inteligence. Most of the time when Nathaniel does crazy stuff, it's because he's curious. "What happens when I throw this truckat mommy? What will happen to my truck? What will mommy do?" The otherday,he threwhiwholebowl of Beef-a-roni on the carpet in our dining room. So, I brought over the trash can and gave hima lesson on "When we make messes, we pick them up." If he's mobileand understands one-step directions (usuallyaroud 18 months or so), he can pick up his Cheerios off the kitchen floor or put his toys in the toy box. You have to be right there to guidethem and keep them focused, but I think if they make the mess,they need to at least help pick it up. It teaches themresponsibility for their actions. Someof discipline also requires you touse preventative techniques. We have a safety gate on our kitchen instead of child-locks on our cupboards because Nathaniel figured outvery early on that if you continually yank and pull and fidget with the locks, they'll fall apart and you can get whatever's inside the forbidden cupboard. It's nice to have that gate up because while he's watching a video, I can cook dinner and nothaveto worry about him sneaking in to the kitchen while I'm boiling water or have the oven on. We also have a gate on his room to keep him in at night so he doesn't go wandering around the house while we're sleeping. We have the kind of gates that swing open like a door because I have cerebral palsy and can't climb over it easily. We're still dealing with the climbing issue too. My husband and I take turns "looking out" for him because it's an all-consuming job for a blind person to constantly be listening and following after a very busy curious little guy all day long. He's able to talk much betternow which makes things much easier for us. Hang in there, Pipi and Mona. We're all in this together.
we have a huge play yard saifty gate that we usually use when i'm cooking, but it's keeping the christmas tree in tact at the moment, it's the only way we've thought of to keep noah away from the dang thing. maybe I need to invest in another one. for now, when i'm cooking I just drag his playpin in the kitchen with me and put on story books or children's music to keep him happy and safe wile I cook.
I don't really know if he's at that levval of understanding, but he randomly spirts out hole sintences like, that's a cat, or what are you doing? or what is that, so i'm not sure what all he can understand. he is a curious little boy though, one of the most curious i've ever seen.
just last night we were at wal-mart getting the tire changed and I had him in the basket and he saw me put the seat part up, so he started pulling it up and down, every thing he sees me do he's starting to do, it's so cute and aussom, but I really need to watch what I do in front of him now, there's serten things I don't want him getting in to just yet.
but I am sertenly glad we have these boards so we can help each other out, it's going to be a long long road.
lol n e 1 else a single blind parent besides me? and does anyone going the potty training process? and what about adventually all of us blind parents meeting each other? that would b so awesome!!!
Hi all!
I have a daughter named Amina who will be two years old in January. She is also doing a lot of things that the above posters have talked about. She likes to take something that she is not supposed to have, and when I try to get it from her or if I say "Give it to mommy." she will try to run away from me with it while laughing. when I catch her, I take the thing away and tell her that she cannot have the item because it could hurt her or whatever the reason is. She also helps me pick up her toys and blocks when I tell her to at night before bed time. I just say, "Put your toys in the toy box." or "Put your blocks in the bag." and she pretty much does it. She also tries to use my foot stool (I have one because I am short and can't reach the higher cabinets and shelves in the kitchen in my apartment) in order to be able to reach things that are on the counters or in the sink. Also, when I catch her doing that and tell her to get down, she pretends like all she was doing was banging on the counter with her hands and not messing with the stuff on the counter lol. Also, when she doesn't want me to find her she will be quiet so I can't find her. When I find her on the foot stool, I tell her to put it back in the room where it goes.
She also hands her cup to me when she wants something to drink and says "Juice." or "Watty." for water. She also tries to get things out of the pantry. She gets the goldfish crackers out and brings them to me and shakes them and says "Goldfish." to let me know that she wants to eat them. She has also tried throwing things for months now, but she doesn't seem to be as bad with that as she was, although she may start again in the future as she has started more and more having tantrums. Usually, all I have to do is tell her to stop or whatever and she will stop, but if she doesn't, I will use time-out, a very short time-out, to let her know that the way she is behaving is not acceptable. I have also had her spill things, like today I gave her some soup that I had made, and she ate what she wanted out of it, and I told her to hand it to me, so she started handing it to me straight, and then she just tipped the bowl toward me and spilled some of it, but I caught it before it really spilled a lot. I am also a single mother just as kristabell in the previous post. I have a roommate, but I am thinking about moving back by my self, because I did better on my own and like living on my own without a roommate. This is not to say my roommate is bad or anything, but I feel more comfortable living on my own just with my daughter or maybe with someone who has raised kids of their own or who has kids and knows how it feels to be a mother, especially a single one. Right now I am a single mother staying at home, because I haven't been able to find a job as of yet, and I am also afraid to put my daughter in day care because I have heard too many things about day cares and want to be able to see my daughter's first years and be there when she needs me. Also, child care nowadays is very expensive.
Anyway, sorry if I got a little off topic and if the post is too long.
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This has all been helpful. We are thinking of having a child some time soon and so, while I can't apply any of this now, I hope you guys are still going to be around to talk and email in possibly a couple of years time!
children can go through terrible twos earlier than the norm. It is all about where the child is in the stages of development. Some children assert their will earlier than others. I hope that this helps you. Good luck, girlie.
I'm not a mom, but my sister has a 14 month old who's already started. She bought xmas decorations (you know the kind that stick in the window), and he pulled them all down and through them. He's also already went after their tree, and he's starting the high-pitched squeeling when he wants something and isn't getting his way. I don't envy her as she's having another, and this one is nothing like the 1st...Her pregnancy with the 1st was easy till the end, and this one at 3 and half weeks is already miserable. Anyways, the real reason I wrote here was to let parents living in the states who are concerned about the financial aspect of daycare know there is a program through the welfare program (not that I believe in living on it, but if it helps...) that will help cover childcare expenses. I know about it because I use to be an authorized childcare provider for the county; IE, I passed the background and medical checks. It doesn't have to be a public daycare, you can get a friend approved as long as they can pass the tests. :) I don't know if that tidbit helps, but I hope it does.
lol i could see how the hiding thing could be annoying. you should put a bell on him or something lol. i have 3 younger brothers, and the youngest are a year and a half and a 4 year old. mark, the baby, has this thing where he climbs on counters and spills soap everywhere. because he's so young we're not as harsh with him as matthew, but eventually when he's a bit older, diciplinning them more is the only way to get them to stop after telling them to stop numerous times doesn't get through to them. After explaining why they shouldn't do something and they don't do it again when you tell them not to we give them eminems or something lol. If they continue to be little brats, sometimes they get a little slap..mark doesn't though because he's not 2 yet, but he's a lot less of a troublemaker than my other brother was when he was his age.
We're very careful about our use of spankings with Nathaniel. I've just never felt comfortable with it and feel that it's overused, and over-rated. I think that spanking is meant for serious offenses that could result in immediate danger and that time-out works best for our son. To me it just seemed like he was interpreting spanking as, "I just get a pop on the butt when I do something naughty. That's not discipline enough for me. I think I'll just do it again." Time outs and redirection are what we primarily use. I am certainly not harping on the last poster for their use of spanking, I'm just putting my two-cents in about what we've observed with spanking. We find that it really is futile and emotionally exhausting to spank for every li)tle offense that you can't find a reasonable discipline tactic for.
I wasn't just coming on to harp about spankings though. I am recomending a book that's on Bookshare called Toddler 411. It has been an awesome tool in giving me ideas about discipline and also what level toddlers are at in their development so that you can better understand them. You can get it in DAISY and BRF formats if you have a Bookshare subscription.
thanks for the book share book brandy? I think your name is, sorry, don't know too many people on here.
and yes, I think it would be wonderful if we had other ways of comunicating with each other as blind moms.
Misty, I am also in austin, and although I have knone people who have knone you I have never met you, i'd totally like to meat for a play date if you'd like, I know you have no klew who in the heck I am, lol, that's ok if your not about the hole internet thing, but our kiddo's are around the same age so i thought it would be neat to compare things. it sucks that we are all so far apart, i'd love to just have a huge blind mommy convenchen. lol,
keep up the grate work guys,
I wish we could all meet up, too. (sad face) I'm so lonely and often wish I could mingle with other moms with toddlers, but I often feel too awkward around sightees. I feel like they end up watching my son and I just sit there trying to have a decent conversation with someone whose yelling and chasing after their kid. (IhaveCP,so have a hard time chasingafter Nathaniel, especially in public places.)
um, public places..... worst place i hate it!! lol my baby wants 2 run n play which is normal, but it scares me because i dont know where i am in a new place let a lone my boo! n e ways this is the first night without my baby cauz my mom is letting him spend the night at her house and i miss him!!:-( but tryin 2 enjoy myself too but... still. miss my TayeTaye!!
oh it has been many years ago, but those toddler days are so vivid in my mind. they seem like yesterday!!!!
oh yes the terrible twos are in the seccond year of life. so from say 14 or 15 months until two and a half the band can really play dixie. i don't like the term "tterrible" as there is a lot to like bout this age. The kids are growing so quickly. They are learning, growing, and experiencing at the most rapid rate of life. Ij prefer calling this age the testing twos.
In many ways the problems comes because their reach excedes their grasp. Tjheir mental and physical development has outstripped the verbal. Even if you don't understand the child, when a temper tantrum happens, say "use your words. " this helps to instill the importance of oral communication.
Remember if we clearly set limits and institute consequences for behavior issues in this age, the adolescent years are a lot less aggravating. my step mom said this and i think she's right.
as for the not coming to me in public thing, i insisted that my kids came when i called them. if they didn't, when they showed up, we went straight home. then, it was a few days before we tried that adventure again.
childproofing and prevension are the best ways to deal with a lot of this stuff. Those priceless nick nacks should get put up until the kids are older. it's a waste of time and effort to constantly discipline for touching stuff which shouldn't be out in the first place.
fortunately, my kids never ran and hid. my son tried it once, and got in such trouble that it wasn't worth repeating. that is totally dangerous and disrespectful. it may be cute, but could have dire reprocussions in the future. that's one time where the spanking happened in our house. as far as i'm concerned it's a definite safety issue.
spilling food is another disrespect thing. if my kids started dumping food they got taken out of the high chair or excused from the table. then if they were two and a half or so they helped clean up their mess. for younger kids, putting a cheap plastic table cloth under the high chair is a great thing. after dinner just fold it up and take it outside and shake it. once a week or so stick it in the washer.
hope this helps. you all are doing great.
My niece tried hiding from me once and only once (she is five now). When she wouldn't answer...(and her mom was laughing about it)...I simply made a loud noise that startled her so that she gave a verble cue...After I got my hands on her I didn't spank. I simply changed her diaper and than wouldn't let her sit on my lap or anything...She use to love sitting on my lap. I think even though she was only almost 3 she associated the hiding with the lack of attention and hasn't tried it since.
excellent way to handle that. great job.